Finding Strength

I wasn't always strong.
I can tell you every instances when I was at my weakest and I didn't do anything to change my circumstances. I was bullied growing up by so many people pretending to be my friends, classmates and even elders.

I wasn't pretty enough.
I wasn't cool enough.
I wasn't rich enough.
I wasn't enough, period!

Goodness, I used to beat myself to the ground for every little negative thing I hear about myself. I used to blame myself for every time I get hurt. Yea, I was that weak but not anymore!

I refuse to give those things power & control over how I perceive myself. No, thank you!

Here's my advice:

Talk to someone you trust and love
I have never been the type to vent my problems because I try to seem stronger than I was but it helps. Sometimes you just need to release all your frustrations with someone who truly cares.
And please DO NOT tweet or post a status on Facebook about it!

Help others. Get involved in community service
Why this? When you start helping others, you start thinking less about yourself. This is important. Feeling good about yourself doesn't always mean you take everything for yourself.

Count your blessings
When you see people who are less fortunate, you start to see what your life can possibly look like. You are blessed so acknowledge every single blessing that came your way. Remember, sometimes blessings come in disguise.

Distance yourself from negative people
If you know they're bad for you, say "bye!" There's no point having those people linger around you more than they need to be. You don't want to give them another chance to hurt you.

Be very good at something, whatever it is
When you're learning something new or difficult, you tend to be focused on that. Nothing else will matter, onlywhatever it is you're trying to get good at. And when you're get really good at something, you get an instant boost of confidence. There's strength in confidence.

Pray or meditate
When you feel down or defeated, just find a place in your home and sit in silence. Cry if you must but make sure you release all the hurt and negativity you're feeling. I promise, you'll feel a lot better.

Remember, if someone is being a crappy towards you, it's not your fault.
It's just a reflection of how they feel about themselves.
(I totes blogged about this statement before)